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Relationship Success
By
Susie and Otto Collins
Perhaps one of the biggest reasons that people fail in relationships is...
They
aren't clear about what they want, what's
important to them and their lives aren't in
alignment with their values.
Before you can tell others what you want, you have to know what is important to you. We've discovered that many relationships that are in trouble are in the shape they are in because one or both people either don't know what's important to them or their actions aren't in alignment with their values.
We'll explain what we mean...
Many people say they want a great relationship but they spend the majority of their time at work or attending social and community groups, leaving very little if any time to connect with their partner.
We suggest that you be very clear inside yourself how you want to live your life and then live it accordingly. If you say your kids are the most important people in your life, then spend time with them. If you say your connection to your partner is most important, then allow your life to reflect that. Do whatever is necessary to first find out what you truly value and then begin spending your time and energy cultivating those areas of your life.
A good way to begin doing this is to make a list of what is most important to you and then rank the items in your list. Then chart how you actually spend your time for one week. Next, compare your list of what you value most with how you are actually spending your time.
Ask yourself these questions-
"Am I spending my time according to what I value most?"
"How can I pay attention more to the
things that I value most?"
If one of those "things" that you value most is your relationship and you aren't spending the time and energy to keep it growing and strong, begin to find ways to do that. If you do, your relationship stands a much better chance of lasting and growing into something very wonderful.
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